How To Actually F***g Change Your Life (No BS Guide)

I swear nothing else will help you more with killing your current bad habits, bad relationships, bad finances, bad mental health like video this will.

The first thing I did that genuinely helped the most with everything, was by creating an alter ego, as cringe as that sounds. My real name is Issa, but in school I was registered as Soroosh, and during grade 9-11 that was the worst my life ever was. I’ll spare the details of the things I was up to and how life was but just know it was no good.

And what helped was my first job (sales) I no longer went by ‘Soroosh’ I was only referred to as Issa because that’s my legal name, and that helped because I was able to switch between these two, essentially Soroosh was the person I was outside of work, but Issa was the person I was at work, and I fully switched to someone of discipline, confidence, and serious about making money to help our family move out of the shit home we were living in at the time.

So luckily I had 2 names so it worked out well for me. If you don’t have another name, make up a different name, name yourself after someone you look up to, a prophet, or even just have a different version of yourself, so when you know you need to do something but instead you’re thinking of doing something bad, you can see yourself as the better version of yourself.

• Small tip— change something about your physical appearance, I started wearing clear glasses and sometimes a watch.

Issa would never skip work, hang around bad people, do degenerate activities, etc. And the reason that this is power-full is because you already view yourself as how you want to be. You don’t say ‘I wanna’ or ‘I don’t anymore’ you just ‘do’ or you ‘don’t’ do something at all. There is no concept of needing to add something, it just is apart of you and is something you naturally do.

Say you wanna quit weed, alcohol, or video games, anything, don’t say “I don’t play video games ‘anymore’” say “I don’t play video games.” Period. View yourself as what you are, not want. Because life gives you what you deserve, not want.

So first actionable step, is take a second to think of a different name, a different version of yourself and give this new version of yourself a list of everything they do or are as a person. Whenever you feel like relapsing or taking a break, you’ll look at this paper or list and you will be reminded.

There is a version of yourself where you genuinely are like this. I promise, please just have hope for yourself for these next 3 months and you’ll see change.

By the way, if you made it this far, I believe you have it in you to become the version of yourself that you deserve to be.

With changing yourself, you also wanna set some goals for yourself, because without a map you wont know where you wanna go. And also attach meaning to those goals because when you have a reason to work towards something, not only will you work harder and focus more, you will also have more chance of sticking to it.

• Bonus tip— for each goal, give it 7 reasons for ‘why’ you wanna achieve it, eventually you’ll realize the real reason you want to achieve it and this will be your ultimate motivator

One thing that helps me with my goals, is having things that are measurable, like money in your bank account is measurable because it’s numbers. Increasing your P.R in the gym is measurable. Also write actions to do instead of things to achieve. Write about the journey instead of the destination essentially. That honestly helps more in most cases because you have direct control over this, as oppose to say customers buying.

I also have some non measurable things every now and then like better work environment or starting something new, but even those you can see and feel the difference as you work towards it.

As humans we’re also selfish, so be honest as to why you want things. Family is a great motivator but for me, feeling power-full, needed, and successful pushes me more sometimes if I’m being honest.

Grab a note pad, book, or even just paper and write some goals you wanna achieve in 3 months, give them a reason (why) and do it for a reason that genuinely will keep you motivated to hit them.

One thing is too, if you don’t hit the goal, it’s fine as long as you made good progress. Don’t be hard on yourself for trying your genuine best.

This next one is harder to do depending on where you are in life but there is smaller ways of doing this. Changing your environment. If you can move locations, please do, one of the biggest changes in my life came from moving out of our small apartment a few years ago into a nicer home in a nice neighbourhood after I started stacking some money from my sales job.

When I did this I was able to start my business and if I didn’t move I know it wouldn’t have happened.

Something smaller that helped lead up to this point a lot was dropping my friends, because the people you spend the most time with is who you become(as we all know,) and this was around the end of me working my sales job and I asked the owner if he could be my mentor and he said yes.

So I had cut all contact with the “bad” people and only had him and one other person, so my social contact was down by a lot, but the social contact I did have around me was people above me, and by now I was also going to business seminars so I exposed myself to better people and bigger results in life, and now I started to believe that success was possible for me.

My honest recommendation for cutting out your bad friends, is to just let them initiate every conversation, and then whenever you’re asked to go out or spend time, just say you’re busy with work, and slowly they’ll just stop contacting you and now you don’t end on bad terms or create bad blood with anyone.

If you don’t have any mentors or people you can work with, it’s ok, reading things like this, as well as watching educational videos and podcasts that educate you on business and self improvement is the next best thing you can do, which you’re already are doing.

This is what took me from a bum with like $7 to my name not being able to buy food when I’d go out with my friends to one year later being a successful salesman to another year later running a profitable business to now with well over 20 x the money, a physique I’m proud of and a circle of friends where we constantly help each other grow.

And this all came from

• Giving myself an alter ego(changing myself)

• Setting some goals for the new me

• And changing my environment + getting rid of the bad friends

I hope this helps you with starting your journey to a better life and with that being said, enjoy your day and thank you for reading:)

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